Parenting class – session 1

Dear Parent,

In my last writing, you read that YOU are the biggest influence in your teenagers life.  Yes, YOU!  Data over the past two decades shows this to be consistent even when culture transforms at a high rate of speed.

Grandparents (your parents) are the second biggest influence in your kids’ lives.

I, and other pastors, am as lows as 7 and 8 on this various lists.

As this online parenting class begins, my prayer is that you will find this experience extremely helpful and informative.  Some of this information will be the result my study and research, while other information will be shared by my friend, Jeremy, who has spent countless hours developing ministry to parents.

Let’s go…

Today we are going to begin by talking about your will….

Do you have a will? You know, the paper ‘they’ will pull out when you die to see who gets your stuff.

The process of preparing a will is not fun. The lawyer asks you, “If you die who will you give your stuff to?” You say, “Give it to my spouse.” The lawyer quickly responds, “and if your spouse dies who will you give your stuff to?”

This goes on and on until it seems like everyone is dead and you are so frustrated you consider telling the lawyer he/she can have it!

When you write a will you figure out how you are going to leave your stuff, but what about the stuff that matters most?

What values are you going to leave your teenager?

What will you teach them about what is right and wrong in this world?

What will your teenager know about faith?

Our family has two rules.  Honor God.  Honor mom and dad.  For Bridget and me, it’s that simple.  There is freedom within those boundaries.  However, those boundaries are rich in living a life that values integrity, morals and ethics.  We understand our children are not perfect and will never be.  We strive for them to become adults who can follow Jesus well.  Honor God.  Honor mom and dad.  Along this journey, we pray that our kids will carry their faith into a world that no longer values Christ or the church.

We want to help you leave a rich inheritance to your teenager of the stuff that really matters.

We want to introduce you to the Rites of Passage Experience. We are going to help you have the conversations with your teenager that matter the most.

We are going to give you the tools to infuse faith into the most important moments in life.

Here are the 7 Rites of Passage we are going to encourage you to lead your teenager through:

  • 6th Grade – Preparation for Adolescence
  • 7th Grade – Blessing Ceremony
  • 8th Grade – Purity Weekend
  • 9th Grade – Driving Contract
  • 10th Grade – Money Matters
  • 11th Grade – Family Tree
  • 12th Grade – Manhood/Womanhood Ceremony

I want to finish today’s session by asking you to watch this 3 minute video. It explains the Rites of Passage Experience we are launching as the foundation of our Parent Ministry.

You can see it by clicking this link… https://vimeo.com/parentministry/review/42874938/c9b551a865

The Rites of Passage Experiences can be found at http://newcastlefbc.comcastbiz.net/ncfbc/ROPE.html

Our next session will discuss how to pass your faith to your kids with some thoughts from Deuteronomy 6.

I love to pray for your family.  Please let me know if I can pray more specifically.

Your Partner,

Chris Peoples