In the last session of our online parenting class we talked about Reacting vs. Responding when communicating with your teenager. If you missed it, you can go here to check it out.
Today, I want to ask you this question. Are you safe? I probably don’t mean what you think. Our teenagers spend 7 hours at school with his or her peers for 5 days every week, not including extracurricular activities. For at least 35 hours every week, our kids have to decide if they listen to their peers or not. Many teenagers don’t think it is important to listen or respect their parents. Many television shows teach our kids that parents are naive and stupid. Our kids battle what to do with that information. They bring home stress from school, peers, and teachers in the same way we bring home stress from jobs, colleagues, and employers. Hopefully, we know how to manage the stress better.
When I ask if you are safe, I ask if you are a safe place for your teenage son or daughter to unravel and process the funk of his or her day. Do they know this?
Disrespect is never tolerated in our home. We are learning to understand that our boys need us to be a safety net for their stress. We are also learning that we must continue to train them through their stress. We cannot train them if we get caught in the moment.
This is the importance of staying calm the best that you can. Responding in appropriate manners with the most love possible. Let’s continue that thought by watching some very practical tips to help stay calm when your teenager is not calm.
It’s called the Rewind and the Flash Forward.
You can watch this short video to learn how you can try it out this week in your home.
I hope this helps you to apply what we have been learning. In our next session we will give ourselves an “Attitude Check”. I am looking forward to it, and I hope you are too.
Have a great week,